Our Great Divorce Celebration


What would you think if someone, with great cheer, told you, “Today I’m celebrating the tenth anniversary of my divorce”?

You would likely assume (with good reason) that the marriage was terrible. Maybe their ex-spouse was insane or abusive; maybe there was an affair. It must have been atrocious. Why would someone celebrate the breakdown of a God-instituted union meant to survive any assault or breach of trust?

Let me reframe the question: what if some people told you they’re celebrating the fiftieth anniversary of their parents’ divorce?

Last night, I went into town with some friends to get Mexican food. It had been a long week, stress-levels were high, and we desperately needed time away from campus. It was a reasonably sized group, seven or eight strong perhaps. The outdoor tables only sat two or three each, so we formed a loose configuration to fill our stomachs with salsa-slathered nachos and steak-stuffed burritos. I sat with two friends across from me: Mallory and Isabelle. I had only become their friend this semester, but we often ended up laughing (joyfully or pathetically) at meals about the ups and downs of college life.

There’s something invisible though. It’s not something we think about often, and if it ever comes up, we shrug and pass over it. The something didn’t come to my mind until later that night, and although I did not voice it when it appeared, it stuck in my head.

Soon enough, our group had moved to the beach. We braced ourselves against the biting wind with blankets and sat on a ledge overlooking the crashing waves. The occasional streak of light above us gave testament to our planet’s breakneck spin through debris-strewn space. The glittering stars above reminded us just how miniscule we are. We sang songs and didn’t care if we went off-key or forgot the lyrics. My friend Peter and I gave a chuckle-ridden (and cringe-inducing) rendition of the first half of “The General” by Dispatch. I actually did forget the last line of the chorus, so Peter was left to singly call out into the night: “Go now, you are forgiven.”

At some point between 11PM and midnight, I off-handedly mentioned to Mallory that I was looking to be baptized soon.


“Yeah, unexpected right?”

“Hold up.” She cocked her head. “You—the Religious Studies major who gets excited over our Christian Doctrine homework—have never been baptized?” I shrugged and gave a brief explanation of my background, and I expected that to be the end.

“Well that’s great! You should tell us when so we can all come watch.”

My eyebrows went up. “Oh, I wasn’t even planning on telling many people. You want to come?”

“Of course, it’s a big day—your birth into the Lord.”

I don’t remember exactly what I said next because the something had slipped into my mind. Our parents are divorced, and I just realized the anniversary is coming up.

Mallory and Isabelle are Catholics. So is Bryan, in whose car I had come here. And so is Hannah, who I banter with over theology and philosophy in the Dining Commons (“The unexamined life is not worth living, so I might as well be vegan for a week”). As are a number of my other friends, as well.

This month is the 500th anniversary of the Reformation.

Why would someone celebrate the breakdown of a God-instituted union meant to survive any assault or breach of trust?

Well, not everyone does. My pastor said, “The Reformation isn’t something we celebrate. It’s something we grieve over.”

However, I can probably count on one hand the number of times I’ve heard a Protestant express that.

Now, I suppose I owe you an explanation. I’m not writing to explain how we can repair the age-old schisms—better minds have tried.

I’m not writing to guilt-trip anyone on either side of the divide either. Don’t misunderstand me; I’m not saying all Protestants should drop their faith convictions and convert. I still confess Protestantism because I believe the Reformation did recover truths of the historic Christian faith. (Although, I think “started to recover” would be more accurate).

I am writing this primarily as a reminder. Yes, it’s for others, but it is especially for myself. It’s so easy to sigh and say the division of the Church is just a fact of life and we should just keep trundling along. It’s easier to demonize others (and for the record, one of my friends was told she worships the devil). Our churches become tribes, and our doctrinal statements become the gilded idols—forgive me if the word choice is too on-the-nose—over which we spill ink and blood.

What of the one faith? The one baptism?

I say, “I believe in the holy catholic church and the communion of saints,” and my heart twists a little. I really mean it, at least, that’s what I tell myself.

I’m not putting on rose-tinted glasses here. I’m not saying that we can solve the divisions, whether it be in this lifetime or a dozen after. It was my Christian Doctrine professor who I first heard say, “We’re the children of divorced parents.” The more I think of the analogy, the more I see its jagged truth.

Might as well ask the basic question… Was the Reformation a good thing or a bad thing?

If you know me, then you might be groaning because you’ve anticipated my answer: There’s more than one right answer, and it depends on the definitions.

If a good thing is something that has good effects, then yes it was.

If a bad thing is something that has bad effects, then yes it was.

If a good thing is something that God ordains and wisely wields to his ends, then yes it was.

If a bad thing is something that people do against God’s commands, then yes it was.

A divorce, indeed. You could really fit any other number of tragedies into this paradigm though, such as the rejection of Jesus by the Jews (note Paul’s answer to this issue in Romans 11).

Since this is about the Reformation though, I’ll explore this idea through the quintessential Reformer.

People tend to forget that Martin Luther did not want to cause a schism. Reforms, after all, are applied to the body one is already in. Luther never broke away from the Catholic Church; the Catholic Church excommunicated him. I’m not going to defend or criticize the process by which all this occurred since countless resources already exist for those interested in such discussions.

Luther, like all of us, was good and bad. Both a saint and a sinner. Both a writer of beautiful theology and a fount of vitriol (no wonder he wanted to remove James from the canon).

For good and evil, his influence has stretched through the centuries. He started a movement that brought Bibles into the hands of the common people and restored vitality to the faith of millions of Europeans. That said, he also despised Jews, and it goes without saying that he wasn’t the last German to think along those lines.

Now, despite his flaws, we still hold up Luther as an exemplar of Christian boldness and piety. We do this with all saints we look up to, whether they be living family members or long-dead martyrs. We have to take the good things in spite of the bad. I’m certain Luther had the same conviction on All Saints’ Day as his freshly nailed Theses hung from the church door.

So, I don’t place any stock in hopes that Christians will solve all their disputes this side of eternity. Besides, the issue has been further complicated by the Protestant obsession with splitting over disagreements. Rather than resolve three main bodies, we would have to resolve a few thousand and then think about the central problem.

Where I do have hope is in the everyday. There may no longer be a communion of saints as the authors of the Apostles’ Creed envisioned, but there is a more mundane communion of saints—one I have already shown you.

There is the tear-filled laughter over hilarious stories in a Chinese restaurant. There is the tangible reassurance of an embrace that wordlessly says everything will be all right when everything seems to be falling apart. There are knowing looks and rolling eyes, sardonic smiles and painful sighs. Like I said, it’s been a long week, but it’s been a week with the best of people: my brothers and sisters.

I can’t resolve centuries of ecumenical disputes, but I can get utterly and incontrovertibly hyped over taking a World Religions class with Hannah and my best friend Austin. And hey, that’s a Protestant, a Roman Catholic, and an Eastern Orthodox. There are wounds that run deep, but there are ways of healing that defy expectation. Bonds of friendship emerge from the casual and unassuming conflux of eternal lifestreams. Trust and love are born from shared suffering. All the while, we pursue the meaningful diversity-in-unity that has characterized the body of Christ since our Christ’s eyewitnesses still walked the earth.

We will disagree about the Eucharist, and we will feast together around more common tables. We have different views of Mary, but we call her the Mother of our God (unless you’re a Nestorian, in which case I have bad news from St. Nicholas). We might not pray to saints, yet we certainly pray with them.

Our disputes cannot be swept under the rug and simply ignored, but to make them into battering rams and trebuchets is merely the equal and opposite extreme. Jesus prayed that we would be one as he is one with the Father. I’m not aware of any genuine, loving unity that has resulted from acid tongues, ad hominems, and simply being ignorant of one another’s beliefs.

And so, as we move towards the Last Day, we always remember what we must do in response to those freeing words that echo into the long-suffered night: “Go now, you are forgiven.”

Dawn is about to break; a Marriage is coming soon.